New Year

The period between Christmas and New Year is one of my favourite times of the year. Away from the stresses of daily life, it serves as a good time to reflect on the past year while making goals for the year ahead. I've never been one for new year's resolutions - there always seems something quite defeatist and impractical about making a promise you know you'll break within the first few weeks of January and I hate putting that much pressure on myself.

Instead, I like to think about achievable goals I'd like to reach during the next few years. A few years ago and fresh out of university, I made a wishlist of things I'd like to have achieved - a place of my own, a step on the career ladder and a car of my own. Fast forward three years and along with some spectacular adventures and wonderful experiences alongside a lot of hard work, I have all of these things.

Having long-term goals reminds me that while I don't need things here and now, a lot of hard work and patience will get me to where I want to be eventually. When you're a child, having a house, job and family seem like the easiest things in the world and it is only when you reach adulthood that you realise these things take a while to build up. While my first few years as a graduate were difficult, I have been fortunate enough to find some fantastic friends, embark on wonderful trips and be part of some brilliant projects. My confidence has soared, my relationships have strengthened and I have learnt a lot.

That isn't to say I haven't got anything left to do. I still want to acquire a driving licence, see more of the world and when I'm feeling brave enough, perhaps embark on my first half marathon. I have a feeling that the next three years of my life will bring a lot of change and plenty more adventures - I can't wait.

Young hearts run free

My other half has bought a Playstation 3. Yes, underneath the brash exterior of a 25 year old city high-flier is a small child with a penchant for pretending to be Batman. I'm not one to talk, really. This is the girl that spent New year's day curled up in reindeer pyjamas watching The Muppets movie with a fun-size bag of malteasers (since when has anything that small been fun?) Still, I'm almost disturbed by how much time one man can spend fiddling with a joystick in front of a giant screen.

We live in the age of kidult. That is, being adults and acting like kids. A couple in our early twenties, we currently live with my parents, a by-product of living in a generation where house prices are high and unemployment is frequent. When we first graduated and moved back home, we told ourselves it was temporary. Just enough time for me to gain a job and in turn, our own space. This last year hasn't been as easy as we'd hoped and eighteen months later, we have only just begun to peruse the windows of letting agents. Still, whilst being a kidult has had it's lows (lack of private life and a long walk to civilisation), it has also had its highs. In the last few months of me having a proper grown-up job, I have managed to cover my overdraft, purchase a swanky new Chromebook and book a trip to New York City. Would I have been able to have as good a time in a shared flat where the rent almost quadruples what I currently pay at home? I think not.

I'm looking forward to the next year. For the first time in a long time, I'm looking forward to being young. Travelling, taking beautiful photos, reading wonderful books, running, eating foods I've never tried, watching new films and building relationships with people I love. This year, my resolution is to relax and enjoy the freedom of my youth. The sky is the limit.

January blues are mandatory

Oh, January. You are so very unkind to us. This week is the first week back at work for most. We are fatter, poorer and experiencing what seems to be some sort of Wizard of Oz style hurricane in the south east of England. The Christmas lights that once welcomed us through the streets are rain swept, clinging on to buildings, endless and sad reminders of the fun we once had. Our resolutions to quit smoking and eating bread have fallen by the wayside and we’re beginning to hope that Spring will come earlier this year.

Still, we are bombarded with advertisements for how to reduce our waistlines and unrealistic celebrity exercise videos from women who have no bums. Rail fares have increased too, of course. Let us not forget that. Even the daily hassle of getting to work is costing us more and we’re suddenly sacrificing our prêt a manger sandwiches for the unrivalled joy of a delayed train filled with sweaty strangers.

And then there is the small matter of me being jobless. Again. Yes, 25% of graduates are unemployed and I’m back to being one of them. The news was broken to me earlier this week in a cold conference room that much resembles the setting of the 2001 film ‘Conspiracy’, in which it depicts a dramatic recreation of the Wannsee conference in Nazi Germany. Only this room was in a seaside town and no-one was wearing uniform.

Ok, so I’m being overdramatic. Having done the hard slog of actual grown-up work for three months, I thought that at the end of it I might be lucky enough to gain a permanent position. Nice try, no cigar. I was marched out like an X-Factor evictee, disappointed that I would never get to sing a cover of Snow Patrol’s ‘Chasing cars’ in the final show, accompanied by a black and white photo montage of my career-seeking journey.

It turns out that unemployment is much like meeting an old friend. It hasn’t taken me long to get used to it again. Indeed, it is much like we never parted. There are some things that haven’t changed whatsoever. There is the familiar tune of Vivaldi’s ‘Spring’ when put on hold to the job centre plus. The usual ensemble of greying pyjamas and blanket with sleeves, accessorised with a blank stare and twitch of the eyebrow. Most importantly there is the welcoming smile of Phillip Schofield and Holly Willoughby at ten thirty each morning. Things could be a hell of a lot worse.